I love the John Mayer song "Say" (I love John Mayer, but I digress...)
it simply says this:
Have no fear for giving in
Have no fear for giving over
You better know that in the end
It’s better to say too much
Than never to say what you need to say again
I think we sometimes don't say what we mean...(really???)
...maybe because we feel we cannot, or we simply don't want to. To be honest and forthwright would be too...awkward, or uncomfortable....maybe a litttle too vulnerable. Maybe it would make us feel like a jerk, or make us feel really free...and that scares us too.
But we really have two choices here: yes and no. I don't know that there are really "maybe" answers. I think that is simply us not wanting to choose yes or no because of the effect it may have on us, or those around us. But in the end, it is like John Mayer said "it is better to say too much, than never to say what you need to say..again"
Matthew 5:33-37"And don't say anything you don't mean. This counsel is embedded deep in our traditions. You only make things worse when you lay down a smoke screen of pious talk, saying, 'I'll pray for you,' and never doing it, or saying, 'God be with you,' and not meaning it. You don't make your words true by embellishing them with religious lace. In making your speech sound more religious, it becomes less true. Just say 'yes' and 'no.' When you manipulate words to get your own way, you go wrong. (The Message)